5 Things You Always Wanted To Know About “A Victim Mentality and Game Theory” But Were Afraid To Ask…


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What is this Q & A series about?

There are some things within strategic thinking and gamer psychology you really do need to know about but you weren’t aware of.

Once you do think about it, either there is nothing about it that you can read on Wikipedia, or so much complicated and jargony information that you can’t even begin to explore the subject.




#1 Q. What does it mean for an individual to have a victim mentality?

A. Victim mentality is an acquired personality trait in which a person tends to recognize or consider themselves as a victim of the negative actions of others, and to behave as if this were the case in the face of contrary evidence of such circumstances. Victim mentality depends on clear thought processes and attribution. In some cases, those with a victim mentality have in fact been the victim of wrongdoing by others or have otherwise suffered misfortune through no fault of their own. However, such misfortune does not necessarily imply that one will respond by developing a pervasive and universal victim mentality where one frequently or constantly perceives oneself to be a victim.

Victim mentality is primarily developed, for example, from family members and situations during childhood. Similarly, criminals often engage in victim thinking, believing themselves to be moral and engaging in crime only as a reaction to an immoral world and furthermore feeling that authorities are unfairly singling them out for persecution.

#2 Q. Are there specific skill sets that can be used to distinguish those with victim thinking versus those or are actual victims such as a government or corporate whistleblower?

A. Transactional Analysis (TA) an integrative counseling theory based on game theory that has elements of psychoanalysis, humanist theory, and cognitive psychology. Approaches, first developed by Canadian-born US psychiatrist Eric

Berne, starting in the late 1950s. TA distinguishes real victims from those who adopt the role in bad faith, ignoring their own capacities to improve their situation.

#3 Q. It would seem that if a person truly sees themselves as a victim that this pattern would become integrated into their very being as a “reality”?

A. This is true. I speak of this in conversations within my writings on Applied Game Theory) especially concerning Regenerating Thought Processes and sense and cellular memory.

What happens is that the pattern of seeing oneself as a victim in most or all unpleasant situations is intensified once a pattern of victimization has been internalized, This is what occurs when a person finds his or herself in a double bind — some emotionally distressing dilemma in communication, in which an individual (or group) receives two or more conflicting messages, in which one message negates the other. This creates a situation in which a response to one message appears as an ineffective or failed response to the other (and vice versa). In such a situation the person will automatically be wrong or ineffective regardless of response. Double binds appear when a person is unable to confront an inherent dilemma and thus is unable to resolve it or create an exit strategy.

#4 Q. Is there a way of exploring or studying these patterns?

A. There is a theory that explores Object relations. Here one explores the way possession by a false self can create a permanent sense of victimization- a sense of always being in the hands of an external fate. When addressing victim mentality in problem-solving scenarios there are a number of approaches that can also be explored. These include:

· Spiral of silence: Here one opinion in a group of individuals becomes dominant as those who perceive their opinion to be in the minority remain silent because they fear that they may be isolated or attacked by the group because of their opinion. Spiral of science is also known as political and mass communication theory, an idea propounded by the German political scientist Elisabeth Noelle-Neumann

· Somebody Else’s Problem: (also known as Someone Else’s Problem or SEP) is a mental/emotional action where individuals/groups of individuals choose to dissociate themselves from an issue that may be in critical need of recognition. A common metaphor for this behavior is the “Ostrich putting its head in the sand.”

#5 Q. How can one break this type of pattern?

A. It requires that one take responsibility for one’s own desires and long-term actions. This is not easy to do for a person with a long pattern of victim thinking. Since HAGT is focused on personal development one must approach this issue from this perspective. If the pattern is locked in through what is called “emotional baggage” then various approaches can be used. Among these is Inner Child work. Emotional release Bodywork, Homeopathy, and Energy Medicine, Guided Journal Writing such as has been developed by Ira Progoff and various forms of “Ruthless Introspection”.


Change your attitude, Surrender your fear, and you can have a life of abundance and happiness.

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HAGT is an umbrella term for thousands of systematic strategies that describe why and how individuals and organizations make decisions. This process involves more than just making wise choices. It is concerned with the effective organization of data and facts, predictive analytics, collaborative intelligence, self-love, serving others as well as ourselves and many other related ideas.


Author: Lewis Harrison is an Independent Scholar with a passion for knowledge, personal development, self-improvement, and problem-solving. He is the creator of Harrison’s Applied Game Theory.

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Author: Lewis Harrison is a student of Zen and Taoist thought and is the Senior Teacher in the Wisdom Path Community, a social media group exploring the spiritual path in all its forms. He is a regular practitioner of meditation, contemplation, and ruthless self-assessment.

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3 Profound and Essential Rules For Effective Self-Evaluation



How to Become a Master Strategist and Fulfill  Your Potential through Self-awareness. ( 3 min read)


Self-evaluation is the process by which our sense of self is explored, and when needed, modified. The desire for self-improvement is a strong motivation to self-evaluate and is central to personal development, self-improvement, and self-awareness.

Self-improvement motivations influence the ways in which we select self-relevant information, gauge its importance, draw inferences about ourselves, and make plans for the future.

Experientially-oriented researchers have identified and investigated 3 cardinal self-evaluation motives (or self-motives) relevant to the development, maintenance, and modification of our beliefs concerning ourselves. These are:




Let’s explore each.

  • Self-Enhancement: With this motivation, there is a desire to improve the positivity of one’s sense of self, and to protect the self from negative influences. This motive influences people to engage in self-evaluation.

For instance, people process information important to the self in a selective manner, focusing on information that has favorable implications to the self and discarding information with unfavorable implications. People also choose to compare themselves socially to others so as to have greater status and to be placed in a favorable position. By doing this, people seek to boost the (self-evaluated) positivity of themselves or to decrease its negativity. This enables them to increase their levels of self-esteem with the aim of having others see them as more socially desirable.

  • Self-Assessment: The Self-assessment motive is based on the assumption that people want to have an accurate and objective evaluation of themselves. To achieve this goal, they work so as to reduce any uncertainty about their abilities or personality traits. Feedback is sought to increase the accuracy and objectivity of previously formed self-conceptions. This is regardless of whether the new information confirms or challenges the previously existing self-conceptions.

Self-assessment is one of the motives that drive self-evaluation, along with self-verification and self-enhancement. Many personal growth experts believe that a self-assessment motive will prompt people to seek information to confirm their uncertain self-concept rather than their certain self-concept. At the same time, people can use self-assessment to enhance the certainty of their own self-knowledge.

Still one must always keep in mind that the self-assessment motive could be seen as quite different from other self-evaluation motives. Unlike other motives, through self-assessment people are interested in the accuracy of their current self-view, rather than improving their self-view. This makes self-assessment a self-evaluative motive, and one of the few motives that may cause a person’s self-esteem to be damaged.

  • Self-Verification: Here the motive asserts that what motivates people to engage in the self-evaluation process is the desire to verify their pre-existing self-conceptions, maintaining consistency between their previously formed self-conceptions and any new information that could be important to the self (feedback). By doing this, people get a sense of control and predictability in the social world.



Research has shown self-assessment to be an extremely important tool for self-improvement and personal development. There are, of course, a wide variety of techniques and mechanisms through which learners describe (i.e., assess) and possibly evaluate the qualities of their own learning and growth processes).

One thing is clear — without some form of self-evaluation, there is no moving forward in life.

Author: Lewis Harrison is a student of Zen and Taoist thought and is the Senior Teacher in the Wisdom Path Community, a social media group exploring the spiritual path in all its forms. He is a regular practitioner of meditation, contemplation, and ruthless self-assessment.

His website is AskLewis.com and he can be emailed directly at LewisCoaches@gmail.com

Learn more about his Master Strategist Course at AskLewisGameTheory.com